How to Cope with Caregiver Stress

If you help a loved one who is elderly, ill, or disabled, you are a caregiver. Even though the bathing, feeding, and other assistance you provide is a labor of love, this "job" can take its toll on you.

Studies show that up to 47 percent of caregivers cope with depression. Other reports show that caregivers often don't take care of themselves, putting themselves at risk for many other health problems.

Take Care of Yourself
"If you are a caregiver for a loved one, it's important that you manage your stress and protect your health," says Cathy McCudden, R.N., of Meridian At Home.

Don't forget the following:

• Get enough sleep, eat well, and schedule regular health appointments.



• If you work, talk with your boss about designing a work schedule that allows flexibility for your caregiver tasks.



• Set aside time for regular exercise.



• Keep up your hobbies, interests, and friendships. If you can't get out much, have friends bring over dinner or a movie.



• Join a support group — in person or online.



• Realize that it's OK to lose your patience sometimes. Vent your feelings to a trusted friend or keep a journal.



• "Be aware of the signs of depression, such as crying, loneliness, and changes in sleeping or eating habits," says McCudden. "Talk with your doctor if you think you have a problem."

You can quickly burn out if you try to do everything yourself. Consider the following tips:

• Develop a schedule that spreads the caregiving or household chores among other family members and friends. "For example, ask older children to help feed a disabled or ill relative," McCudden says. "This helps you, and it helps children build empathy and a sense of responsibility."



• Take the time to pinpoint those aspects of caregiving that seem the most difficult and demanding. You may find that you could use extra help with shopping, meal preparation, cleaning, or driving, for example. Then, look into local day care programs, home care, and other services that can help with these tasks.